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The Important Things In Life - Author Unknown #Simple&True

The Important Things In Life - Author Unknown #Simple&True

He then asked the students if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full.

They agreed it was.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up the remaining open areas of the jar.

He then asked once more if the jar was full.

The students responded with a unanimous “Yes.”

The pebbles are the other things that matter – like your job, your house, your car.

The sand is everything else, the small stuff.”

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks.

The same goes for your life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are

critical to your happiness.

Play with your children.

Take your partner out dancing.

There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party, or fix the disposal.”

“Take care of the rocks first

the things that really matter.

Set your priorities.

The rest is just sand.”

Author Unknown

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Thursday, September 5, 2013

A Modern Day Story About Success & How Make Sure Your Hitting Your End Game Goals

A Modern Day Story About Success

How Make Sure Your Hitting Your End Game Goals

In our human nature is a desire to achieve, to be successful. We all want success.

While pondering, thinking through and writing this post I had to first stop and ask myself a few questions:

How do we measure success?

Can a person have too much success?

Does success bring contentment & peace?

What is my goal within life?

A little story about a conversation between a Mexican fisherman and American businessman may help guide you towards some answers.

The businessman was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The businessman complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them. The Mexican replied only a little while.

The businessman then asked why he didn't stay out longer and catch more fish? The Mexican said he had enough to support his family's immediate needs. The businessman then asked, but what do you do with the rest of your time? The Mexican fisherman said, "I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take a siesta with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos; I have a full and busy life, señor."

The businessman scoffed, "I am a Harvard MBA and I could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats; eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman, you would sell directly to the processor and eventually open your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually New York City where you would run your expanding enterprise."

The Mexican fisherman asked, "But señor, how long will this all take?" To which the businessman replied, "15-20 years." "But what then, señor?" The businessman laughed and said, "That's the best part! When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich. You would make millions." "Millions, señor? Then what?" The businessman said, "Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take a siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos."

The fisherman, still smiling, looked up and said, "Isn't that what I'm doing right now?"

-Author Unknown

Defining Success.....

We live in a world in which being successful is everything. Success is measured by power, popularity, control, achievement, and winning. Having more and being more is success. The businessman measured success by the accumulation of wealth and by living a plush life. He held a Harvard MBA, millions of dollars, and status as a powerful businessman.

"The person with the most toys wins" is a fitting motto.

The businessman encouraged the fisherman to accumulate "toys," too. "Buy a bigger boat," then "buy several boats," and eventually buy a "fleet of fishing boats." The businessman claimed all this would lead to power and status when "you would sell directly to the processor and eventually open your own cannery." As his own boss, the businessman ventured the Mexican would amass "control" and more wealth through an "expanding enterprise."

Patiently the fisherman listened and then asked an intelligent question, "how long will this all take?" To which the businessman replied, "15-20 years." There’s danger in waiting to live the life that you really want to live. Like the businessman, we can easily spend forty years climbing to the top of the financial ladder only to find it is leaning against the wrong wall. We didn’t address life issues about faith, contribution, success, suffering, or love.

Possessions and wealth are not enough. While comforting, wealth cannot fulfill. Benjamin Franklin was of the opinion, "Money never made a man happy yet, nor will it. The more a man has, the more he wants. Instead of filling a vacuum, it makes one." Wealth may momentarily help us to escape emptiness; it cannot cure it.

After reading this short story lets re-look at our questions and see if our conclusion reminds the same:

How do we measure success?

Can a person have too much success?

Does success bring contentment & peace?

What is my goal within life?

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A Modern Day Story About Success & How Make Sure Your Hitting Your End Game Goals

A Modern Day Story About Success

How Make Sure Your Hitting Your End Game Goals

In our human nature is a desire to achieve, to be successful. We all want success.

While pondering, thinking through and writing this post I had to first stop and ask myself a few questions:

How do we measure success?

Can a person have too much success?

Does success bring contentment & peace?

What is my goal within life?

A little story about a conversation between a Mexican fisherman and American businessman may help guide you towards some answers.

-Author Unknown

Defining Success.....

"The person with the most toys wins" is a fitting motto.

After reading this short story lets re-look at our questions and see if our conclusion reminds the same:

How do we measure success?

Can a person have too much success?

Does success bring contentment & peace?

What is my goal within life?

Share your thoughts with me.

trevordrinen@gmail.org

Check out my blog’s:

Blog: Relevant Devotions

Web Connections

www.newhopewindward.org

www.drinenfamily.org

Tuesday, September 3, 2013

It's idiotic to use a crutch when our legs work

C.S. Lewis once said, ‘Most of us need the crutch at times; but of course it is idiotic to use the crutch when our own legs (our own loves, tastes, habits etc.) can do the journey on their own.’

A few weeks ago I sat on Kailua beach talking with a close friend Gabe Cabagbag about this very concept. We both knew people who traveled with several huge suitcases and carry-ons for a short trip, even if there’s no way they’d use everything, because somehow it gave them a sense of comfort or security. Others have a lot of clutter in their homes for the same reason — having more stuff makes you feel secure, more prepared, ready for the just-in case. Many people are super busy, and distracted, because busy-ness and distraction feels productive, and isn’t boring. Smokers don’t want to quit smoking, because it helps them deal with stress.

What do all these people have in common?

They rely on crutches.

As I left Gabe sitting there on the beach to play with my kids in the warm hawaiian waters, I began to examine the concept of crutches within my personal life. To be completely honest I first have to take an outside look in at them life to clearly see this. It occurred to me when I was quitting eating ice cream every night — I realized I thought I needed my ice cream fix because it helped me cope with stress, and gave me pleasure. But ice cream was just a crutch — I could deal with stress even without eating this delightful sugar bliss, but I had to learn other methods of stress relief. I could get pleasure without indulging myself with ice cream, but I’d have to learn something new.

I’ve learned. I now deal with stress easily without feeding my sweet tooth — I meditate, drink tea mindfully, run and workout, go for walks, give myself more space in the day, and I am attempting to let go of the expectations/ideals that are causing the stress in the first place. I find pleasure in all of these things, and in socializing with good friends, and in a good book, and don’t need to find comfort within a bowl of peanut butter chocolate or cookie dough ice cream to find momentary pleasure anymore.

I let go of my crutches.

You can’t simplify without letting go of crutches either. Owning or bringing a lot of stuff for security, for example, is a crutch. Being busy so you won’t be bored, or so you’ll feel productive, is a crutch.

You have to find other ways of fulfilling these needs, without the crutches.

Here are some ways (there are more) that you can live without the crutches in your life:

Security. Do you need possessions or big suitcases of stuff for security? What I’ve learned is that the security of possessions is an illusion. You don’t need them. Instead, build a network of backup solutions. Need a tool or a wheelbarrow? Borrow from a neighbor or friend, and form a borrowing network. Need clothes for a certain occasion? Get them at a thrift store, borrow them, or make do with what you have. Having fewer possessions means you buy less, which means you’re better off financially, which means you’re more secure than someone who bought a lot of things.

Boredom. Do you think you need to be busy or distracted to avoid being bored? Fear of boredom hurts many of us. If you learn to be mindful, there’s no fear of boredom, because every moment, in any situation anywhere, contains an infinite amount of wonder, new lessons, unforeseen beauty and surprises. You just need to pay attention. There’s no need for distraction, busy-ness, trying to do all the fun stuff that everyone else is doing.

Productivity. Does busy-ness mean you’re productive? No, it probably means you’re not good at making choices. To be less busy, you have to decide that some things are more important than others, and say no to the less important, so you’ll have time and energy to focus on the important ones. You can be un-busy, and productive, by giving yourself space to focus on what’s important, the high-impact things that make the most difference in your career and life.

Stress relief and comfort. What crutches are you using for stress relief? Smoking, alcohol, television, movies, Internet distractions, food, shopping … there are lots of crutches that people believe relieve stress and comfort them. Unfortunately, these things often lead to more stress — smoking gives you health problems, shopping leads to debt, television and other distractions lead to inactivity and bad health. Better ways to relieve stress and find comfort (many mentioned already): meditation, mindfully drinking tea, exercise, taking a walk, taking a bath, journaling, talking with a good friend, yoga, doing something creative.

Love. Lots of people keep sentimental items, like gifts and items that hold memories. Basically, they represent love to us. But we don’t need those items for the love or memories they represent. The love isn’t in the items. They’re in us, and the people we love. Instead, let go of the items and spend some time with the people you love, or spend time journaling or thinking about the good times and the people you’ve loved. You don’t need the items to do that. Better yet, spend your time loving others now, instead of dwelling on the past.

These are just a few examples of letting go of your crutches. I’d recommend taking a good look at why you have so many things, do so many things, take so many things with you, and try to figure out what kind of crutches these are for you. Then figure out better ways to fulfill these needs.

One last thing: many people don’t let go of things because they’re afraid of making the wrong decision. If they can’t be sure of making the exact right decision, they don’t make any decision at all. This results in the piling up of complexity.

A better approach than this (which obviously doesn’t work) is to experiment. You can’t know the result of a decision for sure until you try it. So do little experiments, let go of things, and see if you really needed them. Try small experiments, like a week or a day, and see what the results are. It’ll help with the paralysis of making the wrong choice.

Simplifying your life is a worthwhile endeavor. Letting go of your crutches means you discover more about yourself, and realize you didn’t need the crutches in the first place. You are empowered to find new solutions to your needs, and are free to shape your life as you will.

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